One thing that has become very apparent to me during my time with clients, is that our weight is just one part of how we feel about ourselves, and often we put ourselves down. I'm talking about our self-image.
Self-image is how we perceive ourselves, it’s a number of impressions that have built up over time, our hopes and dreams, what we think and feel, what we have achieved throughout our lives. But these self-images are often negative, causing us to doubt our capabilities.
Many of us concentrate on our flaws - our legs are too short, eyes are too small, I wish my hair was thicker etc. We don’t often focus on what is good. We forget to be kind to ourselves and so believe that we don’t deserve certain things in life, including being slim.
We should be aware that our self-image is often far different from how the world sees us. We all know someone who has complained about something about themselves and we just can't see it, but they are adamant about their fault. We should take this as a lesson for ourselves. There will always someone bigger, smaller, taller, thinner, richer and poorer than us so it would be better to put that into perspective when being self critical.
Maybe our poor self-image is defined by our life events such as a bad childhood, not doing well in school, work, or relationships. Or maybe having a positive self-image can help overcome those events for the better. Worth thinking about.
Whichever way round, your self-image has a very strong impact on your happiness, and your outlook on life can affect what happens to you.
Improving Your Self Image
Start with thinking good thoughts about yourself and building on that, focus on one thing at a time and see how you get on.
By working from the inside out, which means focusing on changing your own way of thinking before changing the circumstances around you, you can build your self-esteem. Self-esteem isn't self-absorption; it's self-respect and that’s worth remembering.